Of all the posts I have written on this blog, the one that has consistently gotten comments over the nearly a year since I wrote it regards Fr. Francis Mary Stone, of EWTN’s Life on the Rock fame. At that time, we simply had a statement that was read on air, from Father Francis telling his public that he had gotten involved with a widow and her family and was now taking time off to discern his true calling, etc.
At that time, I voiced a concern about this idea that you can just decide to stop and discern your vocation after you’ve already committed yourself to it. I likened it to marriage…the idea that you, dear reader, would absolutely and rightly skewer me if I revealed on my blog that I had grown fond of an eligible young lady at my place of work, and that I was going to take a sabbatical from being a husband and father to my wife and kids while I discerned my vocation in life, and whether or not they were indeed a part of it. You’d tell me that this was unacceptable because I had already taken solemn and sacramental vows to my wife, and taken on the vocation of pastoring the Domestic Church, and it would in fact be impossible for me to just abandon those vows. Some commenters agreed with me, but many of them said things like this:
We need to give Father Francis the benefit of the doubt here. We all know, as viewers, that he is going to do everything to the best of his ability to do God’s Ordaining Will.
To them I always simply ask the question: would you say the same thing if I told you I was discerning my vocation of marriage and family? I can’t get a straight answer from anyone who made such comments. Most of the commenters just expressed sadness at the situation, and one troll suggested this was an example of why a celibate priesthood makes no sense. Got to love the trolls.
Over the months there’ve been comments asking if there’s any new information on Fr. Francis. Well, this morning, a commenter in fact gave us a piece of news that apparently Fr. Francis went through laicization or is just AWOL from the priesthood, as he has now opened up his website for his new company, “Dave Stone, Inc.” The WHOIS Lookup on the domain name doesn’t reveal any information about who really registered the domain name, but the information on the website is commensurate with what we know about Mr. Stone. Naturally, anyone who wants to could build such a site, complete with photos and biographical information which are correct about Mr. Stone, but of note is that on the home page, an audio clip plays welcoming visitors to the site, and the audio is pretty clearly the voice we know as that of (former?) Fr. Stone.
The website indicates that Dave Stone Inc. offers 3 services: motivational speaking, home health care provision, and a nutritional beverage being sold under an Amway-esque pyramid multi-level-marketing scheme. According to the site, Stone will do speaking engagements for free (except travel expenses and a small retainer fee.) The primary focus is the home healthcare stuff, and the nutritional drink is just plain disturbing because it has a new-agey, eastern religious, medicine show quality to it (rejuvenate yourself, unlock your full potential, standard buzzwords you hear on midnight infomercials.)
One blogger said it sounds like Stone is facing the cold, hard reality that a husband and father must provide for his family. Adjectives like cold and hard make it sound like a negative, and I am confident that that blogger didn’t mean it to come across that way, rather just that now that he’s abandoned his first set of vows, he’s having to make good on the second set by getting up, leaving the cave, killing something, and dragging it back (props to Dave Ramsey for this analogy.)
To be clear, I don’t wish Mr. Stone any ill at all. I am disappointed as I would be if someone I look to as a marriage champion were to come to me and tell me that they had decided to split up with their spouse, because unlike so many commenters, I still see it as Stone divorced his first love and has moved on to a second one. I don’t wish Mr. Stone bad luck in his business or in his family life. For the sake of his family, I hope that he does a better job keeping this set of vows than he did keeping his first set, in spite of the fact that the two are supposed to be mutually exclusive and both binding until death.
I’ve already expressed my feelings on his apparent exit from the priesthood, but now I have 3 new problems with Mr. Stone. First, he’s using the “Life on the Rock” slogan throughout his website – this was the name of his EWTN show, and he’s clearly trying to use the reputation from what is now his past life to further a commercial venture. Right on the home page it says “Living Life on the Rock.” Now it’s not exactly the same but it’s close enough to just sound like he’s trying to make hay out of his previous life and cash in on it. Secondly, he refers to his EWTN experience saying he was the host of the “then popular” show Life on the Rock. The implication? Since I am not the host anymore, it’s not popular anymore. That comes across as just kind of scummy. Fact is, the show has continued in the year or so since he left, with continued success.
The third problem I have is the marketing campaign apparently launched to use the Catholic blogosphere to promote his new website and new company. According to the site, he launched the website on October 4. Interestingly, though, no one seems to have known about the website until early this morning. A commenter posted a link to Mr. Stone’s website at 5:41 AM today; seems the same thing happened to Curt Jester, American Papist, Father Joe, Abbey Roads 2, Threshing Grain, and the list goes on. Since I don’t blog for a living, I couldn’t break the story (I think Father Joe and Thomas at AmP win that award) but I was aware of it first thing this morning. Now it’s unclear whether it was some well-meaning commenter who tipped us all off, or if in fact it was a plan to get all us Catholic bloggers to post about the site, then all our readers (not mine, but the readers of the serious Catholic blogs) would click through to the site and drive the traffic through the roof on Mr. Stone’s site. Call me a conspiracy theorist but the IP address of the commenter who posted on this blog belongs to AT&T internet services, and they do provide internet service throughout Alabama; they also provide it to about half the country, so that’s not really any proof at all. It just smells bad, that we’d all get hit with this at once. And, seeing as my blog is much lower on the totem pole than are some of the others mentioned, it makes little sense to “tip” me off, unless it were a concerted marketing effort. Maybe I am making too much of it. In any event, just to keep from being used this way, I won’t post a link to the site. You can find it if you want to.
Since the story broke, Mr. Stone has added some information to his website, including a “newsletter” item in which he addresses a few things. First of all, he has a statement up on his “hire me to speak” page where he says he’s in full communion with the Catholic Church. Second, he says:
Yes, there are difficulties – obstacles, things that went wrong, flailing bullets, regrets, call them what you will – before me. Yet, by God’s merciful Providence, I have a family to care for now, a child who deserves nothing but the very best I can give him. And, I plan to do exactly that – to do what I ought to do – as natural law, the moral law, divine law, basic human decency, and common sense all dictate. Or, as someone told me not all that long ago, to do as any real Pro-Lifer would and should do. Having long reconciled with the Church and, frankly, beyond, I look forward to giving every fiber of my being to this new endeavor…
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I urge you all to help, not hinder me in this righteous and necessary, albeit most difficult work. I am nothing but hopeful, aware but not disheartened by those who, oddly, go to at times great lengths to try and diminish and destroy. Mother Angelica often spoke in our long-gone “Wednesday Audiences” about those who continually look to destroy…
One last thing I just noticed that makes it start to really stink…a book deal is in the works! Imagine that…
At the urging of many trusted and capable individuals, both Catholic and non-Catholic alike, I am in the middle of writing my autobiography and editing a short book containing many of the letters I’ve received over the past year or so. I believe the former will provide much needed context, while the latter will provide a most inspiring and encouraging resource for anyone having to work through a difficult but far from hopeless time in their life.
I am fighting my cynical tendencies at this point. Again using a part of your life which you have essentially forsaken and divorced yourself from toam make money. I guess it’s just my fallen nature seeing this, but it just looks too much like the typical template. God help us, let’s hope this isn’t a repeat of former Fr. Chiniquy’s work (50 years in the Church of Rome or something like that.)
To reiterate I wish him no ill, he has a life to live and a family to support, but before you proceed to skewer me yet again, just ask yourself…if Mr. Stone had been married with children and went through the same thing, would you be so quick to defend him?